If your not pissed off then you dont care!

I got pissed off last week. Really pissed off.

Takes a lot to get me there too! Mess with my work, my family or my health and I get mad. I have made a concentrated effort to take swearing out of my vocabulary (can express myself better) but I more than made up for the past few months. So why did I get so mad? All came down to someone being late for a very important meeting.

This person was bringing some crucial stuff and was late. It was the turning point for the whole deal and we almost messed it up. The time that I didn't spend swearing was spent trying to think of an excuse. There were none, my pants were down.

Fortunately it worked out well, albeit barely. We got the contract and our revenue is going up. But what if hadn't worked out? It all would have came down to this person being late (unnecessarily too!).

Looking back, I kinda wish I hadn't sworn or yelled as much. But the more I think about it, the more I don't mind. Lots was on the line, I had the right. Maybe it wasn't so bad that some of the employees (and bosses) saw me getting mad. Emotion is passion and I had lots of both. Sometimes it pays not to be in control and steady.

The lesson I learnt: Use being pissed off very cautiously (once quarterly). Be steady and in control the rest of the time. Don't let be being pissed off get in the way of your effectiveness and do your best to get mad at the situation, not the person.

And the advice from my mom, use the "next time" rule. Tell the person that screwed up what would be better for next time. The past is the past, help them learn from it.